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Parent Teacher Conferences

My fiance got a call at work about parent teacher conferences. The ex didn't like it that I went in the fall and is mad that I am going this spring. Her excuse is that it's not parent-teacher-girlfriend conferences. However, when he asked her what I'll be after we get married this summer, his ex replied a 'step-parent'. Ok. So it will be okay to go to the conferences in six months?! I doubt it. I don't really see the big deal in me going to the conferences since I help her with her h

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Added by whoknows on March 4, 2010 at 12:40pm — 13 Comments

A Richter Blend, Stepfamily Chronicles is published!

A Richter Blend, Stepfamily Chronicles is for single, remarried and step parents raising children with parents in two households or are trying to blend and function as a family. It draws upon true-to-life experience. The writers are all grown stepchildren and four are stepmothers today. I personally write the Cooperton's Story. We hit on everything - including, but not limited to budgeting, co-conducting at and between households, the controversial topic of Parental Alienation and Divorce-relate… Continue

Added by StepfamilyMom on January 19, 2010 at 9:25am — No Comments

Alienation

Just thought this is a subject that needs to be addressed. 99% of all these complaints boil down to alienation. As long as we allow the alienation, we allow the ex's to control our lives. Alienation is something that judges accross America need to get a grasp on, FAST! Thank the good lord, my time with the step kids seems to be going by fast. The oldest will be 18 in May, this means June will be the last child support payment on that one! YAY!!!! Meanwhile the attitude now that they hav… Continue

Added by Karen on January 14, 2010 at 3:24am — 1 Comment

My story has been published!

Robert Franklin, Esq. of Glenn Sacks.com offered me the opportunity to write my side of our child support saga after my husband's story was feature about a month ago. It was just posted today. Second Wife Tells How Child Support Separated Her Husband from his Kids January 6th, 2010 by Robert Franklin, Esq. The following was written by one of our readers. It follows up on a piece I did several weeks ago about her husband. Two or three comments questioned the facts stated in the article that f… Continue

Added by LeeAnn Nelson on January 6, 2010 at 5:36pm — 1 Comment

Home alone. A day off washed out!

I'm kinda feeling lately that I'm spending more step mom time (kid performances, dropping off, picking up, sleep overs, band, friends over) and less relationship time. I keep reminding my fiance that we are a new relationship and that going from 3 to 5 kids and having the full weight of those responsibilities thrust upon me are a lot especially for two kids 11 and 15 who are (conveniently) not self sufficient. I am also a bit more than pissed that the things we bought our ss for Christmas are st… Continue

Added by turquoise28 on January 5, 2010 at 8:30pm — 11 Comments

Secrets

Merry Christmas to all. I hope that everyone has had a relatively calm holiday. I need some advice from the other step moms out there. It has recently come to our attention that BM is telling SD to keep secrets about everything. Neither myself or fiance can talk to SD about anything otside of her time with s because she comes back with an "I don't remember" or changes the subject. SD is only six, and yesterday I told her that her father and I knew that her mother told her to keep secrets from us… Continue

Added by Second Mommy on December 27, 2009 at 3:22pm — 5 Comments

Help

I love my new husband (we married 2006) he is a nice guy 98% of the time but his ex wife is a greedy person and constantly harasses him. I have one grown married daughter and three stepkids (two are grown). I get along pretty much with all of them. I was a single mom and raised my daughter from age of 8-19 myself with very little help from her dad. He is just wierd and she barely speaks to him. She is I get along well now. I am a second wife and I feel often that I just a maid here. We both w… Continue

Added by Kittymom09 on December 23, 2009 at 9:41am — 1 Comment

Therapists

Does/will your therapist recommend a divorce? DH and I went to marriage counselor last week. We have our next session tomorrow. I was not that impressed with her. I asked if she has ever recommended divorce and she said she has in the case of domestic violence. So I guess the answer is no? Continue

Added by Zebuca on December 22, 2009 at 11:47pm — 1 Comment

I am desperate

My husband and I married Nov. 14th of 2008, within two months he had multiple conversations with two women, and sent and received pictures to/from them. He tried justifying it that it was about how happily married he was, and I kicked him out for it. He came back three weeks asking for forgiveness and how wrong he was for it. I let him back (I missed him so much). After all, I moved to Florida to be with him and have no friends or family here besides his. After I let him back in, he stated that… Continue

Added by mjr4gyrlz on December 22, 2009 at 11:41pm — 3 Comments

Another issue with the step children

It will be Christmas day in three days and yesterday my husband finally gets a call from the BM saying that we can have the children Christmas afternoon, but they have to be back on the 26th because SD1 is leaving to go out of town on the 27th. Now, we have not seen these children since the 6th of November. The newest court order says my husband gets SD2 and SS one weekend a month, begining at the time school is released and returning them on Monday morning when school starts. It says that sinc… Continue

Added by Legs on December 22, 2009 at 7:35pm — 1 Comment

Enough is Enough

I sent an email to my BF about what my rules are for my life. The biggest one being, if my SS is in the house so is my BF. No going for hours working in the shop, going to gym, running to store without SS. I have made it easy for him because I have not been in the house with SS since I sent email. The other thing is that I will no longer attend therapy with SS or participate in raising him. All of my feelings are deemed mean and my consequences too severe. OK. You and BM have royally screwed hi… Continue

Added by His Rock? on December 20, 2009 at 3:43am — 7 Comments

Help!! child support not being spent properly!

I have spent all day on the phone and am about to throw my hands up. I need information so that we can put BM in her place when she asks for more money or for us to buy things for her house. Yesterday, BM mentioned when we picked up the boys that our oldest needed new shoes. She said she can't buy any until after the new year because she needs to save her money for her trip (she is visiting for her 2nd time her online bf she met --- well, online. haha oh, and leaving on Christmas day btw). She a… Continue

Added by skeeter777 on December 18, 2009 at 5:31pm — 8 Comments

Out of Control Teen - More Saga

I've posted before about my out of control SD age 17. She's gotten picked up by the cops numerous times since turning 16 and obtaining her driver's license, is promiscuous and has flunked out of school. And let's not even mention the respect issues (or lack of respect issues). My husband has gotten TONS and TONS better about backing me up and being more "on board" with my point of view. I *think* I've finally convinced him that it isn't my goal to be the evil bad guy all the time, that it is ju… Continue

Added by neemeese on December 16, 2009 at 2:11pm — 2 Comments

Still here...

Hey everyone, I havent posted anything in quite a while... I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm still here, but I still feel like I'm losing my marbles on all fronts. We have had a few sessions with a therapist now, and I feel like her solution to all the issues I'm bringing up is for me to just stop feeling that way. I don't know how to do that. Soooo.... I'm still at square one... I hope something changes soon... :/ Continue

Added by daizy29 on December 13, 2009 at 2:09pm — 2 Comments

Help!

I need some advice and a chance to vent! Recently, my DH had to reprimand my 13 yr old son about not bundling up properly for the cold weather on one occasion. So this morning I had mentioned to DH that son had worn shorts to school cuz all his other pants were like "walk themselves to school-"dirty. I had been sick so hadn't done the laundry, and son had not done any. Since he was about to miss the bus, I let him go like that, but felt like i should tell DH about it. He gets way upset, and deci… Continue

Added by Bev on December 11, 2009 at 2:02am — 6 Comments

Father's Rights Re: Child support. My husband was on the news.

Okay ladies, here's your time to help a friend in need. My husband was on the news a month or so ago. (Orlando local news) Since then the story was picked up by Glenn Sacks and is posted on his website. I will post both links for you to see the news click and follow the stories. Well, of course there are a ton of blog postings. Many very supported of our situation, but also those who are on his ex-wives side (her friends and family) and a lot of the newest ones are nasty, hateful and angry. The… Continue

Added by LeeAnn Nelson on December 8, 2009 at 11:50am — 4 Comments

childsupport

Does anyone know any thing about child support? Continue

Added by Dev on December 8, 2009 at 11:21am — No Comments

Mother in Law loves BM

I was sure that somehow this year it would be different, but no there it was... The framed picture of my husband with his arm around his ex wife and my ss as a baby between them. Did I mentioned framed? Framed and on the wall in my mother in law's house. I am only there for holidays once or twice a year and each time i am sure that the pictures on the wall in her house will more accurately reflect reality, and then each time i am reminded that she loves BM and always will. I have been with my hu… Continue

Added by Notsoevilstepmother on December 6, 2009 at 10:31pm — 10 Comments

Need words of wisdom from people who have been there done that.

My ss is 10 years old. I met my husband when he was 22 months old. The BM moved him away when he was 3 and he has been visiting almost every other weekend since. His relationship with us has been terrible since he moved 3 hours away. Seven years later he still behaves like he did when he was 3 years old. He is rude, and will flip out screaming if you discipline him at all. Emotionally he is a 2-3 year old. It is impossible for me to sit back and watch him be hurtful, mean and rude to my husband… Continue

Added by blue on December 6, 2009 at 6:29pm — 2 Comments

Another question

I just want to know if this is something to be worried about or if I'm just looking for trouble (which is what my husband says.) The BM remarried (for the second time) two years ago. The children tell me that their mom sleeps on the sofa and has slept on the sofa since she and their new SF got married. (There dad was husband #1.) And that the SF sleeps with the three year old SD. (Not my husband's child, and not husband #3's child, but a child by husband #2.) This subject came about because my S… Continue

Added by Legs on December 3, 2009 at 6:03pm — 7 Comments

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