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Boy I sure can relate. You really need to talk to your husband. When my husband and I married, his two sons were very mean and disrespectful and aggressive. My husband felt that to he did not want me to have to get caught in the middle by disciplini…
Thank you also for your support. We have been going to a counselor concerning this issue and the counselor has basically told him the same thing. He gets very defensive and upset when we discuss this. He knows this situation is not healthy for any o…
You are NOT crazy and unfortunately for all of us stepmoms you are not alone in what you are going through. But thanks to the support of all of us stepmoms, you are not without "alone" in the sense that no one supports you looking out for your healt…
Thanks for your comment. I agree. I've got to take control of this situation and not be a wimp. I'm so glad to hear that I am not the nutcase here. I really appreciate your comments - it does make me feel like i'm not alone and i'm not crazy. Thanks…
Your stepkids are never going to turn their lives around because they don't have to. Dad cleans up every mess they make. Dr. Phil has had shows and written articles on this same situation and he always points out that until the kids are forced to cl…
I appreciate your response. These teens are 20 years old. Unfortunately, I do feel like the bad guy. As my husband says if I would quit complaining then we wouldn't have any problems. He happy to know that they have a roof over there heads and food…
Hi there Mrs X!
I think it is a good thing that you are reaching out, you obviously need to talk to someone who will listen because your husband is not. I don't feel like you going to the doctor and getting on more medicine is going to help. It sou…
… I was wondering if there are any second wives out there who feel that their husbands do not support their best interests. We have had many occasions in our home when the children were quite rude, violent etc. and yet my husband feels that I should…
… I was wondering if there are any second wives out there who feel that their husbands do not support their best interests. We have had many occasions in our home when the children were quite rude, violent etc. and yet my husband feels that I should…
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- Married
- About Me:
- I am 45 years old. I am divorced and remarried. I have two children and two stepson. I enjoy reading, crafting, beading. I generally just like to create things. I work part-time in a local bead shop.
- Number of Stepchildren
- 2
- Custodial or Non-Custodial Stepparent
- Custodial
- Do you have biological children of your own?
- Yes
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Looking for other second wives who feel second class.....
… I was wondering if there are any second wives out there who feel that their husbands do not support their best interests. We have had many occasions in our home when the children were quite rude, violent etc. and yet my husband feels that I should understand that they are acting out there anger. (They are older teenagers, not children). I am very frustrated by his seeming lack of concern for my well being. I have even had to call the police when one of my ss pulled a knife on me. My husband is… Continue
Posted on October 29, 2009 at 1:09pm — 7 Comments
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- At 6:12am on November 17, 2009,
His Rock? said…
- I'm getting over shingles that I attribute to my SS. I had surgery (should have been routine and quickly healed) and all the stress with my SS brought this on. Then my fiance wanted my SS to come over and take care of me....hahahahaha....so we could bond since he had apologized. Whatever, living in LaLa Land!
Our relationship has suffered thanks to my SS and my fiance's inability to be a tough parent. I have been finding him less and less attractive. My fiance also knows I am just about to my last straw on this whole experience. One more round of BS and I may be gone.
- At 1:56pm on October 29, 2009,
His Rock? said…
- It's called enabling and as long as he does it the behavior will continue. He needs Al-Anon or counselling for him to understand. Unless he wants to understand he won't. It's the divorced father guilt thing. It's always the next thing that will shake them up. Personally, I would kick them out. If my husband did not want to I would because it's MY HOUSE!!! I know it's hard but if he can't stand up for you you have to stand up for yourself.
- At 1:05pm on October 29, 2009,
Mrs.X said…
- I was wondering if there are any second wives out there who feel that their husbands do not support their best interests. We have had many occasions in our home when the children were quite rude, violent etc. and yet my husband feels that I should understand that they are acting out there anger. (They are older teenagers, not children). I am very frustrated by his seeming lack of concern for my well being. I have even had to call the police when one of my ss pulled a knife on me. My husband is a very nice man. That is is problem. He always thinks that the latest incidence is going to be the turning point and that the boys have learned their lesson. I wish I was that positive. This has been going on for a number of years and I feel that I am at the end of my rope. We now have the eldest one, his girlfriend and child living with us and it has been very stressful. The idea of them living here was to get them on there feet. (jobs, education etc). Instead, they took great advantage of the situation and ended up getting involved in drugs, stealing to support their habit, etc. They were finally arrested last month and my husband yet again bailed them out of all their troubles. Paid off all the bad debt, got them an attorney( on his advice he paid for them to start drug rehab). I'm so frustrated. He thinks that this is the real turning point. I hope so, because I really don't know how much I can take. All of this is starting to take a toll on my health. I've developed so many stress related symptoms (shaking, anxiety attacks, heart palpations, high blood pressure, sleeplessness, weight loss). I've been to the doctor so many times in the last
six months trying to rule out every possible cause. After my last round of tests, the doctor told me to come back in 8 weeks to see how I am and perhaps we will have to do some more invasive tests to see what the cause is. My husband thinks that if I can just hang on, they'll get there act together and all will be well. He really doesn't want to be the bad guy and ask them to leave. They tried living with her parents first, but that did not work out at all. He wants me to tell them that I am so sick that they need to leave. I really feel hurt by this situation. Its like he can't see that this is making me ill. He thinks that all of the meds. the doctor prescribes to handle my symptons are going to cure me and then he won't have to ask them to leave. Like I said, I'm so hurt by his thinking. I really feel second class. I thought a husband would think of what is in his wife's best interests, but I now know that that is not the case here. The attorney he got to get the kids out of trouble with the police even told him that while his intentions were good, that he only wanted the kids to be happy by not making them accountable for what they were doing, he actually enabled their bad behavior. Sorry to be dumping like this. What a way to start in on the internet community. But it is these things that prompted my looking for support. My husband says that he is so embarrassed by the whole thing that we shouldn't tell anyone (not family, friends, church). Again, I feel that he thinks if he doesn't have to acknowledge what has happened he can pretend it didn't and then save face. I would love to hear back from others who feel that they are not a priority in their home.
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